Thursday, May 29, 2008


Of my 5 children, 2 are biologically mine & my husbands. The other 3 all have the same biological mother and different biological fathers.

In the past I never really gave much thought to any sort of bond between biological siblings. I just kind of thought that when you grow up in the same house together, you usually end up being fairly close to each other & acting a lot like each other. And, honestly, with my 2 oldest boys, I never really looked for signs that there was any sort of special bond, other than brothers living in the same house, and sharing the same bedroom, for that matter. But now that we have our youngest 3 children who are not biologically related to the oldest 2, or to my husband & I for that matter, I have to admit, there just might be something biological that gives us a closer bond than just growing up together. Then again, maybe I'm just imagining it, who knows?

Some things I expected, they all have the same nose, and the same belly laugh, I think their smiles are pretty similar, too. Amata & Caleb have the same big brown eyes (Baylee does not have the Hispanic genes in her, so she's got blue eyes). So far, Caleb seems to have a knack for getting into trouble, just like Amata. Baylee is young enough that she doesn't really get into trouble, unless you count her constantly trying to go down the stairs by herself.

But some things I didn't expect. When Caleb was just starting to laugh, we had to work so hard trying to get laughs out of that boy! I dang near broke a sweat sometimes. Amata on the other hand, could run in a circle 10 feet away from him and he would laugh so hard, a deep belly laugh. It is the same way with Baylee. We can get her to laugh if we are tickling her or something like that, but for Caleb & Amata she will laugh just looking at them. Caleb can be almost sitting on her, which I don't think could feel that great, and she will just start laughing.

I'm just saying, it's not fair! Chris & I are the ones getting up in the middle of the night and changing the mountain of dirty diapers. Would it kill them to laugh that easily for us?

It certainly doesn't make me love any of them more or less, it's just something I thought was interesting.

1 comment:

Trish said...

That is interesting. I never really thought about such things in that way. I also had your thoughts abuot growing up together making siblings close. Friends of mine have 2 adopted girls who are totally unrelated. The funny thing is, the younger girl is almost a spitting image of the older one at that age!