Saturday, November 8, 2008

The Face of FAS


Amata had her developmental & behavior clinic yesterday. It was one of those days that I was looking forward to & dreading. I had already self diagnosed her with at the very least ADHD, & probably Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. So, they were either going to tell me that she had neither, and the behavior issues we've been experiencing were our own problem or that, yes, she did have a condition for which there is no cure.

After looking at her history, taking measurements of her head & face, and having her meet with a psychologist, occupational therapist, pediatrician, speech pathologist & educational specialist, Amata was diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome & ADHD. When I researched FAS, the pictures they always show are of extreme examples of the FAS face. I guess that's why I didn't think that Amata really had the physical characteristics, but once the doctor pointed them out I could see them. The has the thinner upper lip and under her nose is smoother than most people. Her eyes are also a little wide-spread.

The one good thing about this diagnosis is that now she will be able to get the services that she deserves, including early childhood special ed. She didn't qualify before because she scored too high on their testing. But with a diagnosis of FAS which is "a condition known to hinder development", it doesn't matter what her test scores were.
And with ECSE, the school also provides transportation to & from, which was an issue for us when enrolling her in preschool; that's why she is only signed up one morning a week.

And, most of the studies show that children who are diagnosed with FAS prior to beginning school and are raised in a stable home, have a very good chance to lead completely normal lives.

Of course, I would still like to cause bodily harm to the poor excuse for a human being that decided to drink alcohol while she was pregnant with Amata, but it probably wouldn't be in Amata;s best interest if I ended up in jail on assault charges.

Caleb's assessment is currently scheduled in two weeks, but they mentioned that the speech pathologist may not be able to be there, so it might have to be rescheduled. Seeing how similar his facial features are to Amata's, I won't be surprised if he also ends up with an FAS diagnosis as well.

A quote that the MN Organization on FAS uses often is, "Don't Try Harder, Try Differently. If you've told a child a thousand times and he still does not understand, then it is not the child who is a slow learner." That's going to be a tough one for me! There is a reason I was never a teacher!

Thursday, November 6, 2008

To Caleb


My dearest, sweet adorable Caleb. I want you to know how much I love it that you want to be such a big boy. I love that you always try to clean everything up. I love that you try to give all of the kids hugs whenever they are crying. I love that you can put on your crocks all by yourself whenever somebody is going outside so that you can try & sneak out with them.I love that you try to go potty anytime somebody is in the bathroom, even though you only sit on it for 2 seconds & then feel the need to wipe.

But if you could just do one teansy, tiny, itty bitty favor for me, I would really appreciate it. Could you please try to refrain from whipping your diaper off anywhere & everywhere in the house. Especially those dirty ones. Because even though you practice wiping about 10 times a day, you still need a wee bit more practice, and when you go in your diaper, your backside needs a little bit more wiping than if you had gone on the potty instead.
Thank you for your help in this matter!
Love,
Your Mommy

Monday, November 3, 2008

Election Day

I am not really a political type person at all. I do vote, but I don't consider myself a democrat or republican. So the only thing I have to say about the elections is this:

Do you really think bombarding my mailbox with your stupid political flyer's is going to make me want to vote for you? Seriously, this was just one days worth of mail.
I have already had to endure hours of your stupid political commercials bashing one another. There is nothing you can possibly send me in the mail that will affect who I vote for. All these mailing have done was caused me more work to take this crap to the recycling center! If anything, that would make me not want to vote for you.

Trick or Treating

Halloween is easily one of the favorite holidays for my crew. Chris & the boys (mostly Cameron, although Tyler will help out some) love decorating for it. For the past several years, they have actually created a graveyard. They've tried to add some to it every year. A couple of years ago, the local newspaper even had a picture of it on their front page. It got a pretty windy this year, so by the time I took the pictures, some of it had blown down. I was also too far away, so the picture doesn't really do it justice.




Sadly, with Chris' new job, he had to work Halloween night this year. So, I took pictures & Tyler recorded out trick or treating outing.

Amata was of course a princess - what else would she be!


Sticking with the obvious, Caleb was a Twins baseball player.

Baylee doesn't really have any obvious things she loves, so she got the costume I found at the consignment store - a chicken.


Cameron decided to be Iron Man, and Tyler had wanted to just get a mask, but never found one he liked (unless you count the $50 plus shipping one he found online). But I did convince him to throw on his Twins jersey, too, so he & Caleb could be a pair.


I only took the babies to about half a dozen houses. That's about all they can make it before trying to dig into their candy, anyway. After that we come back home to hand out candy....and the kids seem to have just as much fun answering the door & handing out the candy.


I wasn't sure how Caleb would react to the trick or treating, but he amazed me. At the second house he even tried to walk right in. And although he doesn't actually say "thank you" yet, he did try, basically grunting 2 syllables.


And, yes, Baylee did get in on the action. But with me taking the pictures, and her not walking yet, she didn't make it in most of the pictures. I had Tyler snap this one at the very end as we were heading back home.

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Interesting

You may have noticed that there are some google ads in my sidebar. I don't usually pay a lot of attention to what is being advertised there. In the beginning, I did notice that they were mainly about adoption & foster care. I just assumed it was because the profile for this blog said I was a mother of 5 & foster care provider.

Today I happened to notice the ads were about drains. I have to assume in response to a recent post. I just didn't realize that they actually looked at the individual posts when deciding what to advertise for. I wonder how you can get hired to read blogs in order to decide what ads to run.

Pumpkin Time

Halloween kind of snuck up on us this year. Normally, we buy our pumpkins from a farmer between here & Mankato - he usually has hay bales, corn stalks & all sizes of pumpkins, and you can get sort of a variety pack for $20. But for some reason he wasn't doing it this year. So on Wednesday, Chris & the boys ran to Mankato for some stuff & picked up the pumpkins. Amata & I had to stay behind because she has dance on Wednesdays.

Since Thursday was Caleb's birthday and Cameron's band concert, we also needed to get them carved out on Wednesday. Tyler decided this year that he was too old for it, so he didn't pick out anything. But the other 4 kids all got pumpkins. Unfortunately, Baylee was way to crabby for pumpkin carving, she had to go to bed.


Caleb & Amata had fun painting theirs. We rarely get out paint around here - I'm sure you can guess why - so it was a real treat for them. Tyler was nice enough to help the little ones. I guess it's okay as long as it's not actually "his" pumpkin.



Cameron always enjoys the pumpkin Carving. He's the creative child in our house.



Amata was nice enough to help clean out Baylee's pumpkin. She likes anything that means getting dirty.



This was the final product. Pay no attention to the two that never got carved. We meant to finish those Thursday but just ran out of time. And I completely forgot about them on Friday, until I was taking this picture right before we went out. Oh well, you can see the nice paint job Amata & Caleb did on them!

Friday, October 31, 2008

Happy Birthday, Caleb

Yesterday was Caleb's 2nd birthday. Initially his c-section was scheduled for today, Halloween, which would have been even worse, so I'm glad it ended up being moved up a day! As it was, we had daycare until 5:15, and Cameron had a band concert that he had to be at by 6:40 which lasted until 8:45. So, we had to postpone heading to Happy Joe's for bad pizza & fun games. Hopefully we can find a night next week to go.

He & Amata enjoyed his birthday donuts once they got up. (Tyler & Cameron weren't able to partake, since the birthday donuts were purchased after the were dropped off at school...oops).


We didn't do much during daycare for his birthday, mostly because I wasn't prepared enough to have gotten some birthday treats before hand, and also because cupcakes with frosting are just not a favorite of mine to give to the daycare kids...way too messy!
As soon as the last daycare kids was out the door (okay, so maybe we started a tad before they left), we dined on some yummy PB&J and Cheetos. Seriously, if Caleb was able to say, or sign, those exact words, I have no doubt that is what he would have asked for. As it went, Chris asked him if he wanted some PB&J and chips and Caleb shook his head yes and had a big smile on his face.



We also managed to squeeze in opening the gifts before we had to leave. He started off strong, opening his new games for the Nintendo DS from Auntie Meggie and a Twins basketball set.

But then he decided to open his gift from Nana next, a foam bat & ball (apparently, Nana was a little nervous playing catch with him using a real baseball). He decided he'd had enough gift opening & wanted to play with that. After a little convincing, he finally decided he would finish.




He liked his new "Cars" chair, deciding to sit there while opening the rest of the gifts. He got his very own Twins sweatsuit from Auntie Marnee (actually she gave him 2). He decided to wear that to Cameron's band concert - which was fine considering he had lost the pants he was supposed to have been wearing way before lunch. And he finished with a Fisher Price Animal Train & Diego game.


We did let the kids stay up to enjoy cake & ice cream after the concert...except for Baylee, she just couldn't make it!
Tyler is always such a camera hog!